It's a well known and published fact that I am a long suffer of depression. It has changed throughout the years cycling as traditional depression, to anxiety and fears. I have never really had a good reason to be depressed, as so many people find about depression, there is no reason, it's just looming over you. I am happy to say that after many many years of trying different medications I have been on one that has worked great, for me, for the last two or three years, it doesn't mean that it's full-proof, more that it does not come in such painful ways.
Recently I have found myself quite down. Like usual, I have better days than others. It's best if I am very busy, sitting around doesn't work well for my mind. Anyways, this last few months ( you maybe have notices I haven't been blogging) I have been spiraling down. I think this has been my longest bout of depression as an adult (Because weren't we all depressed during that 4 years of highschool? I know I was!) Anyways, I have upped some of my medications and I am starting to feel a little better (Which is why I'm blogging again!).
The un-exiting news is that not much has happened in the few months that it's been since I have been on the internet. The exciting news is that since I'm starting to feel on the mend and slightly normal again I am planning another epic Bolander adventure. The details are a little sketchy because my plan depends on my day. Possible locations include convincing my husband to (finally) let me get an RV and traveling around the east coast up to DC for a fun filled week at museums, Alaska like right now because it's SO HOT, Japan in 2015 or Bonaire in December... or all 4!
Since we are working diligently on becoming debt free these trips are being planned out as debt free trips. Sadly, there is still no sign of my reality show to watch the kids and I travel all over the world so we are paying for the expenses.
In addition to my travel plans I am excited that on Monday I am starting the 21 day fix lead by my wonderful sister.
I know this isn't the most exciting post in the world but I am just happy to be feeling up to blogging again!
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Friday, September 5, 2014
Tuesday, December 10, 2013
Our week
I get a lot of questions about how we function from week to week. The Bolanders are insanely busy from the moment we wake up until our insomnia finally gives in and we fall asleep.
Thankfully since we home school we do not have to wake up early. The kids typically wake up around 7 and play and find some snacks. I roll out of bed at 7:30/8 (sometimes later, I'm not going to lie). Before I get out of bed Willy Jr or Tilly bring me a Diet Dr Pepper in bed. I would call this being spoiled, but I think it's more of a defense mechanism for the kids; When mommy's not caffeinated things go bad quickly. As soon as my feet hit the floor I'm up with 5 kids begging for food... you know, like they didn't just eat bananas, 3lbs of cashews, rice cakes and 1lb or raisins already. Breakfast is usually eggs or oatmeal. Since were gluten and dairy free cereal isn't really possible. My kids are not picky eaters in any sense but they will not touch rice/almond/soy milk. Eitan has horrible acid reflux from being so premature so when I remember, I give him his medication, most days though, he goes without. Responsibility is obviously something I take very seriously....
After breakfast I shout the same thing every single day, and every day after breakfast my kids wander around like they don't know what to do with themselves."Get dressed, make your beds and brush your teeth". They can quote it, yet get complete amnesia every morning after they eat. After they are ready they have chores while I get ready. Lisa gets all the dirty laundry into the laundry room, Willy Jr does the dishes, Tilly gets all of the house trash into the kitchen trash and Eitan feeds the cats. I battle Sawyer and get him dressed. He takes his diaper to the kitchen trash, and then proceeds to pull out all of the trash his sister just put in. Ever.Single.Day
After all of that mess we start school. Some days at this point I'm dressed, ready and even managed to brush my teeth. Most days though I'm still in whatever I fell asleep in. At some point before noon I do manage to get dressed. We recently switched to a subject a day. Math Monday, Social studies/History Tuesday, Science Wednesday, Language arts Thursday and whatever we didn't finish on Friday. This has been fantastic. Except for Mondays, nobody likes math Monday. We have a school room/office but we never use it. Were set up at the kitchen table. Each kid has 5 drawers with 1 workbook pencil and eraser in each. On math Monday they go to their drawer labeled math, pull out their book and start working. Willy and Tilly are in the same grade math wise so they sit next to eachother and I work with them for about 10 minutes explaining whatever it is that is in their workbook that day. Then they start. Lisa is supposed to open her book and read the instructions and see what she can figure out before I come help. Every Monday this equates to her sitting and doing nothing for 10 minutes. Eitan has a workbook too. He likes to do "REAL" school. His is mostly tracing shapes and doing mazes. Everyone knows that I walk in a clockwise circle at the table. When I'm standing behind you, its your turn to ask questions. If I am not behind you, you sit and wait, or skip the question your stuck on until I get to you. I'm constantly hovering and walking in circles. I like to consider this my daily exercise. Once you have completed your pages for the day, your done. Go play, go destroy, just stay out of the kitchen. On days where I am doing most of the reading we sit on the sofa and the kids rotate who sits next to me.
Each week we participate in Gymnastics, BMX, Flag football practice, flag football games, drama, Speech therapy, play therapy and homeschool co-op. Once a month we have a foster/adoptive support group meeting and marine biology club meeting. This keeps our afternoons very busy. We spend a lot of time in the car driving from one place to another. If the kids were feeling ... less than motivated to finish the schoolwork then these extra curricular activities don't happen. I have been known to make them get dressed up for whatever were going to and make them sit and watch their friends while they finish their school work. It's amazing how quickly work gets done when all of your friends are playing and your not.
My kids are very active. Even though they only drink water I'm pretty sure someone is sneaking them caffeine when I'm not looking. Earlier this week I found Lisa "napping" on the roof. Eitan jumped over our 6ft privacy fence AND over our 4ft "impenetrable" pool fence. One of their favorite things to do in the back yard is climb our fence, and jump from our fence to the neighbors tree, climb down, play with their dogs and then climb back over, it's a funny sight to watch. I believe as I type this they are on top of our fence eating kumquats off of the neighbors tree.
Anyways, once we get home from all of these things everyone is STARVING. Like they didn't eat 50 snacks each in between each meal. I don't know how, but every single day meal time sneaks up on me. I AM NEVER PREPARED! I used to crock pot a lot but I lost my crock pot mojo and now I scramble to get a meal together. I should really get better at this sort of stuff. But here I am, 1:30 in the afternoon not prepping for dinner, but instead wasting my time (and yours) on the internet.
After dinner we shove as many kids in baths as we have energy for. Lisa and Willy can bathe themselves which is nice. Tillys hair is so long and thick she needs help and probably will for the rest of her life. Eitan and Sawyer get shoved into a bath together and by the time they are done it's murky enough to make an alligator happy.
Bedtime stories are a chapter book. Right now we are reading "The never ending story". It has been a great, but very challenging book, I feel like we may never finish it because we spend so much time talking about what each and every sentence means.
I try to make it to the gym 3x's a week and Willy and I try and have a date once a week. This time is really important to my mental health. I love my kids and I miss them when I'm gone even for two hours but I don't realizing how taxing their constant barrage of questions really are until I'm away from their tyranny. Grocery shopping is usually done late at night either after the kids 8pm bed time or after I'm done at the gym. I try to meal plan as much as possible but lately I just go and wing it. This is a terrible, expensive idea and I really need to stop. I did manage to meal plan last night but haven't actually made it to the store. When I do take all the kids to the store everyone has an assigned corner on the cart. One hand must be on YOUR corner of the cart. Sawyer is in the baby seat. This makes shopping easy. I hand the kids food and they load the cart. If Eitan is being wild (always) he has to sit in the cart and be the organizer. My kids are very quiet and well behaved at the store (minus Eitan) so we actually tend to get compliments a lot on shopping trips. It's small validation that I'm doing something semi decent in my job.
Thankfully since we home school we do not have to wake up early. The kids typically wake up around 7 and play and find some snacks. I roll out of bed at 7:30/8 (sometimes later, I'm not going to lie). Before I get out of bed Willy Jr or Tilly bring me a Diet Dr Pepper in bed. I would call this being spoiled, but I think it's more of a defense mechanism for the kids; When mommy's not caffeinated things go bad quickly. As soon as my feet hit the floor I'm up with 5 kids begging for food... you know, like they didn't just eat bananas, 3lbs of cashews, rice cakes and 1lb or raisins already. Breakfast is usually eggs or oatmeal. Since were gluten and dairy free cereal isn't really possible. My kids are not picky eaters in any sense but they will not touch rice/almond/soy milk. Eitan has horrible acid reflux from being so premature so when I remember, I give him his medication, most days though, he goes without. Responsibility is obviously something I take very seriously....
After breakfast I shout the same thing every single day, and every day after breakfast my kids wander around like they don't know what to do with themselves."Get dressed, make your beds and brush your teeth". They can quote it, yet get complete amnesia every morning after they eat. After they are ready they have chores while I get ready. Lisa gets all the dirty laundry into the laundry room, Willy Jr does the dishes, Tilly gets all of the house trash into the kitchen trash and Eitan feeds the cats. I battle Sawyer and get him dressed. He takes his diaper to the kitchen trash, and then proceeds to pull out all of the trash his sister just put in. Ever.Single.Day
After all of that mess we start school. Some days at this point I'm dressed, ready and even managed to brush my teeth. Most days though I'm still in whatever I fell asleep in. At some point before noon I do manage to get dressed. We recently switched to a subject a day. Math Monday, Social studies/History Tuesday, Science Wednesday, Language arts Thursday and whatever we didn't finish on Friday. This has been fantastic. Except for Mondays, nobody likes math Monday. We have a school room/office but we never use it. Were set up at the kitchen table. Each kid has 5 drawers with 1 workbook pencil and eraser in each. On math Monday they go to their drawer labeled math, pull out their book and start working. Willy and Tilly are in the same grade math wise so they sit next to eachother and I work with them for about 10 minutes explaining whatever it is that is in their workbook that day. Then they start. Lisa is supposed to open her book and read the instructions and see what she can figure out before I come help. Every Monday this equates to her sitting and doing nothing for 10 minutes. Eitan has a workbook too. He likes to do "REAL" school. His is mostly tracing shapes and doing mazes. Everyone knows that I walk in a clockwise circle at the table. When I'm standing behind you, its your turn to ask questions. If I am not behind you, you sit and wait, or skip the question your stuck on until I get to you. I'm constantly hovering and walking in circles. I like to consider this my daily exercise. Once you have completed your pages for the day, your done. Go play, go destroy, just stay out of the kitchen. On days where I am doing most of the reading we sit on the sofa and the kids rotate who sits next to me.
Each week we participate in Gymnastics, BMX, Flag football practice, flag football games, drama, Speech therapy, play therapy and homeschool co-op. Once a month we have a foster/adoptive support group meeting and marine biology club meeting. This keeps our afternoons very busy. We spend a lot of time in the car driving from one place to another. If the kids were feeling ... less than motivated to finish the schoolwork then these extra curricular activities don't happen. I have been known to make them get dressed up for whatever were going to and make them sit and watch their friends while they finish their school work. It's amazing how quickly work gets done when all of your friends are playing and your not.
My kids are very active. Even though they only drink water I'm pretty sure someone is sneaking them caffeine when I'm not looking. Earlier this week I found Lisa "napping" on the roof. Eitan jumped over our 6ft privacy fence AND over our 4ft "impenetrable" pool fence. One of their favorite things to do in the back yard is climb our fence, and jump from our fence to the neighbors tree, climb down, play with their dogs and then climb back over, it's a funny sight to watch. I believe as I type this they are on top of our fence eating kumquats off of the neighbors tree.
Anyways, once we get home from all of these things everyone is STARVING. Like they didn't eat 50 snacks each in between each meal. I don't know how, but every single day meal time sneaks up on me. I AM NEVER PREPARED! I used to crock pot a lot but I lost my crock pot mojo and now I scramble to get a meal together. I should really get better at this sort of stuff. But here I am, 1:30 in the afternoon not prepping for dinner, but instead wasting my time (and yours) on the internet.
After dinner we shove as many kids in baths as we have energy for. Lisa and Willy can bathe themselves which is nice. Tillys hair is so long and thick she needs help and probably will for the rest of her life. Eitan and Sawyer get shoved into a bath together and by the time they are done it's murky enough to make an alligator happy.
Bedtime stories are a chapter book. Right now we are reading "The never ending story". It has been a great, but very challenging book, I feel like we may never finish it because we spend so much time talking about what each and every sentence means.
I try to make it to the gym 3x's a week and Willy and I try and have a date once a week. This time is really important to my mental health. I love my kids and I miss them when I'm gone even for two hours but I don't realizing how taxing their constant barrage of questions really are until I'm away from their tyranny. Grocery shopping is usually done late at night either after the kids 8pm bed time or after I'm done at the gym. I try to meal plan as much as possible but lately I just go and wing it. This is a terrible, expensive idea and I really need to stop. I did manage to meal plan last night but haven't actually made it to the store. When I do take all the kids to the store everyone has an assigned corner on the cart. One hand must be on YOUR corner of the cart. Sawyer is in the baby seat. This makes shopping easy. I hand the kids food and they load the cart. If Eitan is being wild (always) he has to sit in the cart and be the organizer. My kids are very quiet and well behaved at the store (minus Eitan) so we actually tend to get compliments a lot on shopping trips. It's small validation that I'm doing something semi decent in my job.
Friday, December 6, 2013
Sawyer
Sawyer is our only biological child. While I had long assumed that I could get pregnant, I didn't want to BECOME pregnant, because seriously, that's gross. So Sawyers start in life was "Man I have a terrible stomach bug", which turned into "What on earth is wrong with me?! Do I have a parasite or something?!". As it turned out, I did have a parasite, just not the kind I had assumed. Long story short I keep telling the doctor that prescribed me my birth control that Sawyer is technically HIS son, and I want Sawyers first tattoo to be a PSA about how when Pfizer says the pill is only 98% effective, they mean it. ANYWAYS, despite the unexpectedness of Sawyer, he is my baby bear. I love that little fat chunk. Sawyer is a mommas boy. He loves me (read: boobs) and follows me everywhere, unless of course, I ask him to come, he is after all a boy. Sawyer got his name because older brother Eitan is as nefarious as Huckleberry Finn. With that as an older brother there was no hope for this baby. True to the box we put him in, before he was even born, Sawyer is just now starting to show his mischievous side. But at the end of the day he still wants his mommy (read: more boobs).
Eitan
I think Eitan, 3, is best known for his hair. His puff can be seen for miles around. He is also very well known for his insomnia. His late night antics are very funny to well rested people. Born at 32 weeks he was 4 lbs 3oz but has made up for it. All day, every single day, every second of the day he says "I'm so, so, so, SOOOOO hungry". He eats, and eats, and eats, and eats, it's insane. Eitan's nickname is Wild bear, because, seriously, hes wild. Up until his adoption he was a perfect, well sleeping angel, and then literally, while we were at the court house he started fussing. I think in his mind he knew he could finally let it out. Even though he was only 9 months old when he was adopted keeping his behavior in check for those 9 months has come out 10-fold. Eitan is wild. He uses his head as a third arm. It's like he doesn't feel pain because he's been known to fall off of some pretty crazy stuff and just jump back up like nothing happened. Eitan makes me angry almost as much as he makes me laugh. Every manor-ism that he has is funny. He single handily makes having a large family difficult and fun at the same time.
Tilly
Oh there are so many things you can say about Tilly. Shes like a mad scientist but with lots of hair. Tilly wants to be a Marine Biologist who studies stark teeth when she grows up. At age 2 she was able to recite all 8 planets and a huge amount of facts about the solar system, her favorite facts were about solar flairs. Willy Sr let her stay up late and watch Jaws, she held onto her stuffed shark and CACKELED every time someone died. Tilly is our very macabre child. Her made-up stories are about evil queens commanding sharks to eat the peasants and ending up being eatin alive herself. Tilly is in gymnastics but is no where near dedicated as her older sister Lisa. She is playing flag football this season which may be one of the funniest things I have ever seen. When I told her it was also time for her first football practice she shouted "OH GOOD! I'M ONLY PLAYING FOR THE SNACKS". Shes tiny, but can eat like a man and fierce like a dragon kid. Everything she says is hysterical.
Little Willy Jr
We met Little Willy Jr when he was being fostered by our good friends. We went to their home for a birthday party and he instantly fell in love with Willy Sr. He asked if he could call him daddy and after we left the party he started telling his foster mom that his daddy and sisters came to visit him. It was impossible to say no to that little boy with his blue and red casts on. Willy Jr rides BMX, which is "extreme" bike riding. He also plays every seasonal sport possible flag football, Soccer, baseball, etc. Willy is our very easy, docile child. He never wants to make waves. He will say or do anything to keep the peace. Having lots of brothers and sisters is good for him, he has learned a lot about speaking up for himself! Willy loves to read and do crafts. After over two years in foster care we are excited to announce that Willy was officially adopted in August 2013. This was very exciting for all of us, but also bitter sweet because in Florida you can only have 5 children in your home to be able to foster. So, he was our last foster child, but very worth it.
Lisa
Lisa, 7, came to us with her sister (Tilly) when she was 3.5 years old. She and Tilly were officially adopted a year later. Lisa competes in gymnastics and loves it. She works out every day and is very dedicated to her sport. Lisa is the most tender hearted, kind, compassionate and helpful person. For having had such a difficult start in life she is such an over comer. Lisa is often my co-pilot through the day. Without her calm reasoning with her siblings, and willingness to help I'm not sure any of us could survive.
Why am I here?
Hey there! I'm Kristen and I have 5,000 kids that I home school with my husband, Willy. I am terrible, just terrible at grammar, spelling, and anything involving language, blogging is a terrible idea for someone like me. Please pardon my terrible writing skills.
Willy and I have fostered and adopted kids in Texas and Florida. I am also in the process of becoming a Guardian Ad Liten(GAL). We are very active in our local community mentoring, coaching and supporting foster and adoptive homes.
I love to travel. I always tell people that my reality show would be the kids and I traveling to obscure locations like Angor Wat and seeing if we can survive. No lame Disney cruises for us, we want to see the world! Willy has to work to support my travel habits so often times the kids and I are left to our own devices. This makes for some interesting adventures when you have young kids.
As of this moment we have 5 children Lisa 7, Willy Jr 6, Tilly 5, Eitan 3 and Sawyer 1. This number is subject to change. I am always open to adopting more children. Willy, however believes himself to be the "Voice of reason" and thinks five kids is more than enough. Were going to see who wins (hint - I always win).
Eitan can not tolerate any dairy and Sawyer is sensitive to gluten (as far as we can tell). This makes easy meals pretty much non existent.We try, but often fail, to eat as much unprocessed foods as possible. This also makes easy meals nearly impossible.
Life as a Bolander is busy, chaotic and sometimes stupid but most days I am happy to be where I am.
Welcome to my life!
Willy and I have fostered and adopted kids in Texas and Florida. I am also in the process of becoming a Guardian Ad Liten(GAL). We are very active in our local community mentoring, coaching and supporting foster and adoptive homes.
I love to travel. I always tell people that my reality show would be the kids and I traveling to obscure locations like Angor Wat and seeing if we can survive. No lame Disney cruises for us, we want to see the world! Willy has to work to support my travel habits so often times the kids and I are left to our own devices. This makes for some interesting adventures when you have young kids.
As of this moment we have 5 children Lisa 7, Willy Jr 6, Tilly 5, Eitan 3 and Sawyer 1. This number is subject to change. I am always open to adopting more children. Willy, however believes himself to be the "Voice of reason" and thinks five kids is more than enough. Were going to see who wins (hint - I always win).
Eitan can not tolerate any dairy and Sawyer is sensitive to gluten (as far as we can tell). This makes easy meals pretty much non existent.We try, but often fail, to eat as much unprocessed foods as possible. This also makes easy meals nearly impossible.
Life as a Bolander is busy, chaotic and sometimes stupid but most days I am happy to be where I am.
Welcome to my life!
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